My name is Cher Caldwell. I am a Post Adoption Specialist. I help people who are searching for their birthfamilies. I am a mother of three children  John, Jessica and Candice. I do National Searches for Adoptees and Birthfamilies. I reunite Adoptees and birthfamilies as long as they are over the age of 18. I am from San Diego, California although I have been living on the East Coast recently. I do many hours of research and investigating.  I have learned in life that people come and go in your life, some were meant to stay and some were just meant to give you life experiences, it is what you do with those experiences that define who you are.   Every adoptee should have access to medical history. I also believe every adoptee has a right to choose if they want contact with any birthfamily as well as a birthfamily has the same choice.



This site is owned and operated by Cher Caldwell.  Cher Caldwell has been known to do many searches for free and as done many searches based on a donation fee only. Cher Caldwell has been reuniting families for over 20 years. Cher  has been featured in many newspaper articles and as well on the Talk Show known as The Greg Behrendt Show. To contact Cher Caldwell, her email address is chercaldwell@yahoo.com or you can locate her on www.myspace.com/chercaldwell

If you are in need of Help in any area of your Search or are just looking for support, please feel free to fax Cher your information at 734-758-3155 and email chercaldwell@yahoo.com

Searching is another way that adoptees and birth parents cope. Searching can take a number of routes: using support groups; hiring an investigator or search consultant; reading literature; surfing the Internet; contacting agencies or Attorneys' offices; or hunting down clues yourself.

If you do search, your goal should be for the truth. You must be willing to face whatever you might find out, even if it's the death of your birthchild or birthparent. The information you learn may be painful; however, peace of mind mostlikely will come with the pain. If you search for your birthchild or birthparent only to find that he or she won't take your calls, answer your letters, or send a photograph, at least you tried. Others before you have found that the process still helped them set aside their fantasies and accept their current life situation with a more positive attitude.

While you may want to take other people's feelings into consideration when deciding to search, your own feelings are also important. One route to take, short of an all-out search, is to register with voluntary registries for birth parents and adult adoptees.

Most people take for granted the fact that they have access to their genetic and medical information. For those who were adopted, however, it is very difficult to obtain updated medical information unless birth parents have updated their file.

Nonetheless, adoptees thinking about searching hear many voices. One voice tells them not to open Pandora's box"they may be devastated by what they find. Perhaps they will experience rejection or find a birth parent who needs emotional or financial support they are not prepared to give. What about the rights of the birthmother who may have carved out a life for herself and does not want the intrusion? Adoptees must also consider their adoptive parents and the grief that a search may bring them. Adoptive parents may feel unloved, unappreciated, and hurt by their child's need to find his or her "real" parents.

Cher is here to give support with Adoption Issues. She is also here if you are looking for experienced Triad Members to help assist you in your search, whether it be Advice, Support, Search Information, or Looking for Hope.

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